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  1. Mike
    October 10, 2012

    For you, “Home is where the heart is” while in my opinion, “Home welcomes anyone with a great heart”. I think it’s a bit the same.

  2. Agness (@Agnesstramp)
    October 13, 2012

    Wow, the the most interesting and the longest definition of “Home” I have ever read. I absolutely agree with you. On my travels, I found my “Home” in many places where the people were like family members to me and where I felt good. Settling down in one place will be so difficult for me. Don’t know if I will ever be able to start my own family after so many adventures I had when being on my road.

    • Dave from The Longest Way Home
      October 14, 2012

      Hi Agness, all I can say is that through the passage of time people and places change. It’s something I left out of the article. But something that holds true. I wish you the best on your journey!

  3. Natalie
    October 14, 2012

    From someone that has been searching for home for many years, I can relate to your blog. Its succint and frank and actually hits home. The Western world has been raised on ideals (including TV programmes) of a better life which leads to bitter disappointment. My family is fragmented so finding home with family is impossible and i feel that leads to feeling adrift yourself. Friends/work/cultural belonging can replace that to some extent but its harder work and less solid and more fragile. I think you have two homes in life, one from childhood and the one you raise a family in. I don’t have either so am bound to search but…I think you have helped me make a decision and I think I’m going home (for me: familiarity,folk I know and the bad weather I ran from!). Brilliant blog, thank you.

    • Dave from The Longest Way Home
      October 14, 2012

      Natalie, thanks for your comment which had much meaning. It’s always easy to see who truly “get’s” the concept of home vs those that think they know it.

      I fully agree with you on the western world has been raised on the ideals of a better life which ultimately can lead to disappointment. Though from my experience I’ve found this to be true else where too. Though due to mass media it’s strangely effected by the west too.

      A valid point about having two homes. A childhood one, and one where you have a family. It certainly makes sense. One which leads to the “circle of life” being keyed into our DNA with a genetic predisposition of what home is.

  4. Richard Crest
    October 15, 2012

    This is an inspiring article. They say being far away from your home feels alone, “home is where your heart is” its not necessarily house where you live where as house is built by hand while home is built by human hearts.

  5. jeffrey solomon,esq.
    October 16, 2012

    this guy has a wonderful way with words.so easy flowing yet sounding like each word was placed with with great thought in mind.i can see him saying each phrase.
    TO ME HOMES WHERE YOU HAVE YOUR STUFF.and you can spread a little stuff a long way.and a small pile of dirty clothes here and there along the way gives it a nice touch of home sweet home.but your base should have your one true love, your hotrod in the garage and your wife in the bed I HEARD SOME SAY HOMES WHERE YOUR HAT IS OR HAVE A GIRL IN EVERY PORT. not me i do like going home and getting into my own bed with my one and only wife. but thats just ME!

  6. Lianna
    October 17, 2012

    Thank you!

  7. EJ Juen Jr
    November 2, 2012

    Luther Vandross :)

    Home is where the heart is. I agree.

    Problem is my heart is divided.

    Love for my wife and kid who are in her hometown which uses a language I’m not used to and my love for my hometown.

  8. Anna
    November 10, 2012

    Home is where you make it.I agree.

    I moved here 15 yrs ago from Poland and I am very happy


  9. Todd Waldorf
    November 17, 2012

    First, I’m a new visitor to your blog and I will be back. Thank you for your effort.

    You struck on something that is a new revelation to me. I mean, brand-spanking-new. I’m currently in New Zealand. I am originally from the USA. Over a year ago I quit my job as a finance executive. Afterwards I moved to Australia in search of nothing. I really had no idea what I was doing. I just went because I didn’t feel alive and I very much wanted to.

    While in Australia I realized I was onto something. I had gone against the trend of conventional living as a North American citizen. Normally life equate to a college degree, a career, a family, and retirement. I was happy that I was taking the metaphorical hatchet to the weeds of societal teachings. I would find my own way.

    After my visa expired in Australia I have traveled more. I am not house-sitting, which is fantastic. Now my residence is someone a home that belongs to someone else. In January my Aussie-partner will meet with me and we will marry in April/June. Outside of my window right now is a view of Pukerua Bay. I am high on a hill and literally over tree-tops. It is magnificent, but after a few days it became normal. It wasn’t as splendid as the first day.


    I thought that was peculiar. All of my life I have told myself that I want to live some place beautiful, but what does that mean? I’m not questioning that. After living anywhere for a period of time it could lose the luster of beauty that it once had. The excitement of a new place and viewing a new painting is now replaced by something familiar–however, this is not so bad either.

    It’s like being in love, isn’t it? At first the relationship is exciting and you get butterflies of wonder. After a few years you become more content and familiar and find out how you really feel. I think that comes with a home as well. It doesn’t take a beautiful landscape or a view of a bay to be your home. It isn’t necessary. I had thought it was desirable and even still it is as a preference, but that is all, no more and no less.

    Eventually the luster of the view will become the “norm”. The thrill of a first date becomes the sanctity of a love eternal. These things develop inside of you and the view and the dates transform into a part of you. You’re wife becomes an extension of you as does your home.

    Todd Waldorf
    The Bang – Better Living

  10. Rosalie
    November 17, 2012

    For me home is where you find true happiness and peace of mind. Of course, it should be a place where the environment is clean and peaceful and there is enough supply of water and electricity.

  11. Vee
    January 11, 2013

    “Understand the basics of survival.

    Understand that no four walls nor roof will ever suffice unless you know what you want in life.

    Understand that once you have a family, it’s not just your home, but theirs too. Live in it together, for each other.

    Understand that once you have what you want … you’ll eventually want more. Be prepared.”

    Wow… straight out of my head…

  12. Wil
    January 24, 2013

    The house I grew up in has always seemed like home to me. It’s the place I feel the safest and most familiar.

  13. Giovanna
    February 6, 2013

    I’ve gone back to the very main-or at least it seemed so-subject of this blog of yours, and like better to go and search among your first travels to Europe, the only I’m very interested in,as present far East articles are more of touristic interest for me,becouse I’ll never be able to go there. Crisis has also make vanish many expectations.
    So went back to these commentaries and found many true things in them.

  14. Paul
    February 6, 2013

    Certainly a lot of insight in is post. It’s really given me a lot to think about. Home really is a state of mind I suppose, but I really do agree with your conclusion at its the place you are best at adapting in. When in lived in my birthplace, Perth, I never felt right. It was my home, but I never connected with the place

    When I moved to London, I found that I really adapted well. No shock in adapting to life in a big city, I just slotted right in. So many things that were different to what I was used to just seemed right. Within a few months it felt more like my home than Perth ever did. Now I’m in Melbourne, I crave that feeling that I had.

    Home. Such a simple concept on the surface, but so much more than that. Thanks for the great post.

  15. Stephen S.
    March 4, 2013

    Since I’ve started traveling I’ve always viewed the road as home. That is where my heart lies and only when I’m traveling do I feel like what I’m doing is right. I don’t know if I’ll ever stay put completely.

    • John Martin
      March 14, 2013

      You are on the right path Stephan, you can learn a lot while traveling. you don’t even have to go school for that..

  16. Giovanna
    March 18, 2013

    I realize the majority of your readers,Dave,are “romantic” people,the way it was meant by proto-19th century ones-Lord Byron & Company are not dead, they survive inside “road,elsewhere,search” supporters. Maybe you too,or did you find home in Nepal? It’s a lot of time you are being there!

    • Dave from The Longest Way Home
      March 18, 2013

      I think most people are romantic in their definition of home and even travel. As written above it’s not as simple as getting up and moving. Visas, work, money, human rights heck even basic rights are not even possible. Nepal is a fantastic country. It’s one of the reasons I came back. Can I own land here? No. Can I ever vote here? No. Can I try to live here? Yes. Is it home? Well in an unromantic sense, no. In a romantic sense, yes.

      I’ve written more in my newsletter about the next few months.

  17. Clayton
    April 13, 2013

    I’ve lived places for a couple years that didn’t feel like home and I’ve lived places for a few months that felt more like home than where I grew up.

    To me, home is the place that I feel the most sense of belonging. I guess that means its the place that has the whole sense of being that is closest to where I am in my life.

  18. Daniela
    May 12, 2013

    I was looking for information to do my homework of the university, and I found it.. I think that HOME refers to the feelings like peace, love, security, comfort. A home is the place you belong, is the place where you can truly be yourself. When you are at home, you feel in your own world..
    I think that your definition is describing a HOUSE.. I mean the building..

  19. Teresa Roberts
    May 15, 2013

    My home is more about people than places. Although I have been wandering for the past 9 years, I return for temporary solace and love to the arms of my loving children or the home fires of my worldwide friends. Home is a feeling not an actual structure or location, at least for this compulsive traveler.

  20. Barnabas Storm
    June 10, 2013

    I am over 50 and my parents left North America to work overseas when I was 4 months old. I have been an outsider my entire life. And I agree with you completely with regards to ‘Social Integration Lost In The Wind’. You have to be yourself. And it has worked for me. From time to time I do sputter in vain about ‘drinking dirty water’, but afterwards, having accomplished nothing, I berate myself and go back to being quiet. One has no choice. It was a pleasure reading this entry. You write very well.

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    August 5, 2013

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  22. Wade
    November 1, 2013

    I don’t know where home is, but I will be there when I get there.

  23. Chloe
    February 20, 2014

    This is a beautifully written piece, along with some gorgeous photos! It really can be hard to decipher where “home” is. For me, home is where the backpack sits at any given moment.

    Thanks for sharing the great piece!


  24. Monnette
    April 6, 2014

    Isn’t “home is where the heart is” the same as “home is located in the place you are best at adapting in?”

  25. Hamish Healys
    April 11, 2014

    Wow! You certainly had a lot to say with what a home is… and I like the way you put it. I’ll go along with “A HOME IS WHERE THE HEART IS”. Deep down that’s how I honestly feel. I can go and visit some of the most beautiful places in the world and stay in the grandest, ritziest hotels but when I open my front door on my return the warmth of my home tells me … it’s here that I belong.

  26. The Guy
    May 2, 2014

    A very detailed and reflective article which I think you round up well with your 4 rules of home. However the idea of the grass being greener elsewhere can often be misleading.

    We strive to find somewhere to settle which we think will fit our needs.

    I’ve moved a few times and even lived abroad. I now travel a lot. For me I have a permanent home, a former home and a temporary home. As a traveller wherever I settle for the night (or lay my hat to coin the phrase) is my temporary home.

  27. Andy
    June 1, 2014

    Answering this question has always been a difficult one. I think it goes much deeper than where you are physically born or grow up. I also agree with your idea one man’s reason for staying is another’s reason to leave. Happiness in where you live can depend on a number of factors.

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