Entrance to the Kumari living goddess house
In an ancient courtyard walls of stone carved deities, ferocious looking lion guardians and all manner of unknown sculpted faces all stared down at me. As much as I wanted to inspect them up close I was also aware that in this empty square there were probably other more human eyes watching me.
I walked to the only visible open doorway that led into a dark seated area and further into another open area at the other side.
There was no sign of anyone.
Yet the most unusual of items above the doorway told me there must be people here.
A door bell.
Moreover there was a small hand painted sign which read: “living goddess ->” .
How to say you are looking for a living goddess?
The doorbell made no sound as I pressed it. A not too uncommon event in Nepal.
I stepped back and turned around to face the courtyard in case I’d missed another entrance way. The pitter-patter of footsteps on wood made me turn back. A shadow revealed a secret. Then, above the doorway a woman’s round face appeared on a balcony.
She was smiling in a warm motherly way that instantly made me think she was a good person. She gave me a half-head wobble of curiosity and greeting that told me to speak.
“Namaste,” I greeted and unfortunately struggled to follow-up. The next words that followed struck me as being not said all too often in life. “Is the living goddess in?”
The woman’s cheeks bunched up and I could swear there was a chuckle as she smiled a little wider.
“Would it be possible to meet the Kumari?” I asked more appropriately.
The woman nodded affirmatively.
Inside the Kumari’s house
Shoes removed downstairs I made my way up a narrow wooden staircase led by a youngster in his teens to a thinly carpeted room void of all furniture. There was a middle-aged man who greeted me and an older man sitting cross-legged by a pale blue wall who nodded politely.
I sat by the sole wood framed window overlooking the courtyard outside. Beside me was another staircase leading upwards and to my other side a single thick red curtain. An exchange of formalities over with I asked some simple questions about the Kumari.
Apparently she was being prepared and would be ready soon.
No matter my extended length of time in Nepal it’s always these long awkward yet smiling silences that make me want to speak better Nepali or Newari. But even then small talk in such situations never seems appropriate. At least for me.
The kind woman appeared from behind the single red curtain and greeted me once again with that warm smile. I couldn’t help but ask who she and the others were.
The teenager spoke in English, “We’re her family. Mother, father, grandfather and I am her brother.”
I was slightly shocked and taken back as my thoughts were that the Kumari did not live with her family.
“She is ready,” said the mother before I could ask anything else and just as my curiosity peaked.
Meeting the Kumari living goddess
I walked through that heavy single red curtain leading to a darkened tiny blue room illuminated partly by a small square window that was almost completely blacked out by a metal mesh covering. The smell of thick candle wax and musky incense was strong in the air. Shadows flickered across the room from the tiny candles dotted around the bare floor that was strewn with ceremonial rice, decorative metal plates, red tikka and carnation flowers.
Juxtaposed to all this tradition and sitting on a low silver throne was a small slender girl. The Kumari.
She sat eyes staring straight ahead at a point on the wall opposite her. Dressed in red robes with ever so pale skin she looked no older than eight.
Her brother urged me to sit on the floor opposite the Kumari. I moved across the room in two strides and knelt down before the throne looking up at the Kumari. All around her were small dishes holding offerings of rice, inks, powders and other paraphernalia. Her eyes by now had moved to stare at the ground before both of us.
This, a child who was a goddess
Struggling in front of the Kumari living goddess
The Kumari’s brother suggested I should receive my blessing now. Rather strangely at this time I did not want one.
I felt like I was violating a Newari / Nepali tradition by asking for something I did not believe in.
Cultural custom dictated that I should get a blessing anyway. But after so many years of travel one becomes conflicted with so many customs that I, for one, stick with my own.
Instead I simply asked if I could just take a photograph?
Little did I know but I was descending into a personal struggle that would soon lead me to a new revelation.
The brother nodded and spoke in Newari to the Kumari. The Kumari’s eyes moved from where they were to a different point in the room and back again almost as if she felt awkward.
It was at this point that my heart yelped.
I no longer saw a living goddess. I saw a little girl who had just become an object.
Before her a man who was about to fracture his condition and accept a tradition.
Taking photographs of the Kumari goddess
My camera raised I now felt like a betrayer of innocence, culture and my own quest.
A man exploiting a little girl for a photograph. My hands shook and I clicked away. How far and how many photographs could I take? I’ve taken photographs of street children, dead people, violence, beauty, love and all the spectrums in between. Nothing had effected me. Until now.
This girl who is a goddess is a controversial figure in many respects. So be it. But to me right then, she was just a young girl who I’d surely made uncomfortable. Let alone the fact I’d probably offended her, the goddess and a culture by not wanting a blessing.
The room was so dark none of the photographs would be exceptional anyway. I continued on though. Doing what I do.
I asked if the brother could tell the Kumari to look at the camera.
I felt cold and heartless. She was not a little girl. She was a tourist attraction. A living object I could order around.
With every shutter click the Kumari would never look directly at the camera lens. I’d seen this before in West Africa and rural places around the world. She was uncomfortable with this. Uncomfortable with a stranger in this her inner sanctum who had no interest in her beliefs other than to take a photograph.
Of course later I’d discover why she was really avoiding camera lens. And, perhaps I am grateful.
Heartless photographs I can do but this was something else
I could do no more as something was collapsing within me.
I thanked the Kumari and left the room with no blessing.
Outside in the bright pale room I was offered tea by the Kumari’s parents.
I took it upon myself to redeem what had occurred inside.
No longer thinking of the goddess I asked the question I now wanted to know most.
“What is her name?”
The mother looked at me, “The Kumari?”
The mother smiled, “Her name is Samita.”
From Living goddess to a girl called Samita.
I knew what I wanted.
To make a new friend.
Since this story was first published many from the media have tried to copy it. Sadly, as they try to rewrite it, they leave out many essential parts about the Kumari. Further, several Nepali travel agents try to sell tours to see the Kumari. Please do not partake in these tours no matter how “community” focused these companies say the are. They are simply cheating the Kumari families by only offering token payments. As a tourist, you do not need a tour to visit a Kumari. Read on to find out how – or download my guidebook to Nepal for full details.
Getting to know the Kumari goddess, Samita Bajracharya, being given a quest, understanding the legend and being given permission to photograph her in full ceremonial attire (part 3 of 3)
Read the full series here:
Part 1: In Search of the Kumari
Part 2 (current): Meeting a Living Goddess: the Kumari
Information: Facts on The Kumari of Nepal
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