In search of Nepal’s Living Goddess – the Kumari

by Dave from The Longest Way Home ~ January 21st, 2013. Updated on August 18th, 2014. Published in: Travel blog » Nepal.
The Kumari house in Kathmandu Durbar square

The Kumari house in Kathmandu Durbar square

The Kumaris of Nepal: virgin girls that are living goddesses

This is my story in searching, understanding and uncovering the Kumari of Nepal. To understand it a little better I suggest one should know who or what the living goddess known as the Kumari is.

The Kumari is a premenstrual girl selected by a Newari council to be the vessel or incarnation of the Hindu goddess Taleju. She must undertake a controversial selection process and an equally questioned life until menstruation ends her time as a living deity.

That is a mere summary. I do encourage you to read my full fact article on the Kumari of Nepal (available next month) to get a much better understanding of this living goddess, the misconceptions involved, the controversies and the history.

Meanwhile this is my personal account in search of the Kumari.

First attempt at visiting a Kumari in Nepal

It’s no secret that the Kumari lives in a house located in Durbar square in Kathmandu. The guidebooks state this with ease adding that catching a glimpse of her was possible through an upper window yet very rare.

No photograph sign for the Kumari in Nepal

No photographs are allowed of the Kumari while in residence

I did try during my first visit to Nepal arriving in 2007. I went to her residence during several mornings, afternoons and evenings. All I ever saw were a few signs saying “no photo”, touts claiming no one could see her and a few tourists impressed only with the ornate wooden carvings surrounding her outer courtyard.

Trying in vain to meet the Kumari

Back then I asked questions about the possibility of seeing her. They were denounced as not possible. I wondered why. Quite simply I had taken both the wrong approach and was caught between ongoing internal Kumari problems.

The Kumari caretakers had become very protective due to the Bhaktapur Kumari scandal when she left the country. And due to the former King and current prime ministers controversial battle as to who should be blessed by the Kumari. The Prime minister won.

So it wasn’t to be. I left Nepal for Tibet in 2008 with only the sense of lingering legend being pushed to the back of my mind.

A return visit to Nepal and uncovering the Kumari legend

In my recent return to Nepal I thought again of capturing a photograph of the Kumari. I knew her caretakers would not let this happen for the sake of a humble tourists photograph. So I asked the right people and to cut everything short it was indeed possible. But … at a price.

Disappointed I felt that even the legends of travel had been corrupted by money. Had I missed my chance or was I simply being naive to think one could see a goddess without paying a financial price.

I set out to speak with local Nepalese people to find out more and if it was possible to photograph a former Kumari. Surely that would be possible? And it was. But again at a price. However this time it seemed more acceptable due to former Kumari’s lifestyles.

It is said the sudden journey from being a child to becoming a deity to being a child again can take its toll.

The Nepalese peoples thoughts on the Kumaris in Nepal

During my research I asked many Nepalese people for their views on the Kumaris in Nepal. Surprisingly many cast off the idea of having a Kumari as being ridiculous, stupid and from the past. I was shocked by the strong feelings and words I was hearing.

Wooden carving of the Kumari in Nepal

The Kumari is not revered by all in Nepal but she is still holds divine right to many who believe

Of course my research on the Kumaris in Nepal had only just begun. I began to piece together the elements that made the Kumari possible and spent a day with several Newari caste Nepalese (read more about Nepal’s caste system here). The reaction was a polar opposite even among professionals.

Indeed I was even questioned as to why I should dare doubt the Kumari legend before I could ask anything of it.Clearly there were some who had strong ideals about who many believe the Kumari is.

Among the ancient Newari people beliefs are as strong today as they were hundreds of years ago.

It took a while but after listening for many hours to many people I seemed to finally wear several of them down into accepting I simply wanted to know about “The Kumari”. I was not there to judge their girl child rituals, beliefs nor her standing in society.

As in most cases the real answer was as sedately simple as one should expect:

“She is a representative of a (our) deity”

Visiting the Kumari in Nepal

So with defenses lowered I asked the inevitable question on visiting the Kumari. It was of course possible. But what of photographs or more? Only at a ceremony. And even then it was rare to get the privilege of photographing her alone.

We spoke more. We spoke of the Kumari history. And so it came to pass I would ask of the other Kumari and learn about the Bhaktapur Kumari and Patan Kumari. Each one under the Kathmandu Royal Kumari. Whom is the most revered Kumari in all Nepal.

But what use to me would it be to visit the Royal Kumari and not take a photograph, speak a word nor find out what isn’t already known? Yes, within the Newari caste I was not making any sense. Why should I be?

They revered the Royal Kumari above all else. The mere idea of finding out more, photographing or questioning anything about her seemed taboo. I was an outsider looking in through a keyhole. So I kept questioning to the point of understanding more of the Newari traditions.

What if something were to happen to the Royal Kumari? Yes, the answer was that the Bhaktapur Kumari was the next highest Kumari in Nepal.

In search of the Kumari in Bhaktapur

Bhaktapur is one of the oldest and most beautiful of ancient cities in Nepal if not the world. It is unfortunately a UNESCO world heritage site and thus much of it is becoming spoiled by the greed of frequented tourists now paying a hefty entrance fee into the central city.

Bhaktapur Durba Square

Bhaktapur Durbar Square (where the second most revered Kumari resides)

One can stay in the city and pay the fee only once. Or one can circumvent the whole entrance fee by taking a different route into the city. I stayed in Bhaktapur and enjoyed the city quite well. The people are still friendly though beginning to show the strains of tourism.

I visited Bhaktapur durbar square on many occasions. Meeting with several people who told me the Kumari of Bhaktapur’s story. I will admit here that I seemed to have missed the boat. I sensed tourism visitations and something not sitting too right. It might have been me but when in search of legends I tend to rely on gut instinct. So I left pursuing the matter no more. (Do check out my free Bhaktapur travel guide)

A chance encounter with a past Kumari

Nepal is full of surprises when you least expect them. I was now on a search for a former Kumari with the serious intent of simply taking a photograph and possibly interviewing her. If you have ever seen a Kumari in full royal robes with the striking makeup featuring the agni chakchuu or “fire eye” painted on her forehead then you might know why.

I made my search public and outright. In doing so one day I heard from a lady who claimed to have visited the very real Kumari in residence several years ago. Was it possible? Was I chasing a legend in daft circles and yet the answer lay under the breath of a lady who had by accident stumbled upon the goddess with ease?

My relegated search for a past Kumari was leading me to the all too real living goddess of today.

There were no formalities. A local taxi would provide the means to locate a building that was there no more. Again in search of Nepal’s legends the country did not disappoint at its most basic. Simply asking people were the Kumari’s house was gave simple shrugs and a pointed fingers.

Standing outside a gate guarded by stone lions I peered into an open empty courtyard.

It seemed I was indeed about to meet a living goddess. The Kumari. And on these very moments of completing a quest in search of a legend I can only tell you that it is indeed worth it.

Jewelry and dress worn by the Patan Kumari in Nepal

In front of a living goddess

I was about to not only meet with the living goddess that is a Kumari of Nepal. But I was to get to know the goddess by her former name, meet her family, be invited back, offer and receive a quest, and yes photograph her in all her child goddess like glory.

I would also have to call into question if any child should be put through this and whether I had indeed any right to say otherwise.

Read the full series here:

Part 1 (current): In Search of the Kumari

Part 2: Meeting a Living Goddess: the Kumari

Part 3: Samita Bajracharya the little girl who became a Kumari living goddess

Part 4: From Living Goddess to former Kumari & schoolgirl

Information: Facts on The Kumari of Nepal

Hotel search at the Longest Way Home

Planning on booking a hotel room in Nepal?

Looking for the best online rates?

I recommend you try my own hotel search network in Nepal here. The best rates guaranteed!


Liked this post?

Never miss a post!

Enter your email address:


14 Great responses to In search of Nepal’s Living Goddess – the Kumari

  1. BackCountry Navigator says:

    Nepal is one country that is very rich in culture and history. They are known to be a conservative yet strict because of some rituals they have been obeying for the last hundred of years.

  2. Angela says:

    I usually have the attention span of a goldfish but I read the whole article and I want to read more! I never knew Kumari excisted and I love the fact that you took your time to find out so much about it.

  3. Emma says:

    Amazing read! I’ve never heard of the Kumari before. Still can’t get over that such a person exists today. Looking forward to the next part!!

  4. Charlotte says:

    Hat tip to you Dave. Awesome read this morning waiting in my inbox. Was telling everyone at work about it. Can’t wait for the next part.

  5. debbie ann says:

    this was excellent, very interesting. can’t wait for the next part.

  6. It’s great that you still enjoying your trip in Nepal. I am regular reader of your blog and appreciate the beauty of Nepal.

  7. Charles says:

    Amazing discovery!

  8. Wonderful post and great blog!!

  9. Marycon says:

    I’ve seen this little goddess in Nepal on t.v.(Replays:Believe it or Not.)about 5 or 6 years ago. The former Kumaris featured on R:BN was like unhappy and she seems not social.

    I’m just wondering if they are still bothered about the traditional beliefs like these Kumaris should’nt get married because there is a curse bound to them?

    Very Nice post..Thanks much..

  10. esme says:

    Wow. One of the better travel blog posts I’ve ever read. I’m not worthy.

    Adding Bhaktapur to the list…